"I don’t know if most of us are actually human at this point, those of us who are like most of us, who grew up with TV and movies and now the internet. If we are betrayed, we know the words to say. If we want to play the stud or the smart-ass or the fool, we know the words to say. We are all working from the same dog eared script.It’s a very difficult era in which to be a person, just a real, actual person, instead of a collection of personality traits selected from an endless automat of characters. And if all of us are play acting, there can be no such thing as a soul mate, because we don’t have genuine souls. It had gotten to the point where it seemed like nothing matters, because I’m not a real person and neither is anyone else"
Gillian Flynn, Gone Girl
The backlash against David Cunliffe is so ridiculous, he was making a point about violence against women, yet we’re focusing on one slight mishap in phrasing rather than the overall context he was speak in.
"I’ m sorry for being a man right now because family and sexual violence perpetrated overwhelmingly by men"
You cant just cut that down to “I’M SORRY FOR BEING A MAN”
It completely changes the sense in which he was speaking
At the same time John Key’s allowed to ridicule him in the media, calling him ‘silly’ in a week where his government tried to cover up the rape of a young woman.
Have we time travelled back to the 70s?
What makes it even more disgusting is that the media is so quick to ridicule Cunliffe yet when the roastbusters case was happening they were so quick to accuse the government of not taking a strong stance on sexual violence.
It’s like John Key didn’t even bother to listen to the whole speech “The problem isn’t being a man - the problem is if you are an abusive man,” Key said.
He wasn’t saying the problem was being a fucking man you douchelord he was referring to the gendered nature of domestic violence. As the womens refuge picked up on:
Henare welcomed Cunliffe’s apology and said Labour seems to understand the gendered nature of violence.